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Tanning for your wedding day–Hate it!

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

Many people feel they look their best with a little sun kissed color, but when I hear someone say that they are going tanning I must admit I cringe.  Maybe it’s easy for me to say because I’ve never gone to a tanning booth (yes, I am from NJ and have never been to a tanning salon!) and I worked on a farm the summer that I got married so I had a bit of natural color on my wedding day, but seriously?…tanning for your wedding?  Tanning beds have been bumped up to Group 1, the highest cancer-risk category, and are considered “possibly carcinogenic to humans”.  A World Health Organization report finds that those who started using tanning beds before age 30 increase their risk of developing melanoma by 75%…hear it again, 75%!  Melanoma is the most dangerous form of skin cancer and causes a large majority of skin cancer deaths.  According to the report it may also increases the risk of melanoma of the eye. 

Brides Magazine and Glamour both devoted pages in recent issues declaring that the fake bake is out!  It’s clear that it’s a matter of when the damage will be visible as opposed to if there will be harm to your skin.  So consider the fact that you are beautiful just as pale and pasty as you are!  It is recommended that you apply sunscreen daily (at minimum SPF 15 to 30 is recommended in all seasons), even if you are trying to get a natural sun tan and keep in mind that there are lots of artificial tanners and bronzer options out there!

Don’t be fooled!  Tanning beds are not “safer than the sun” and they won’t prevent you from getting a sunburn.  The reason you only go in for a few minutes is because it IS so intense.  If you do tan and you have no plans to stop (I know some people say they like how they feel after tanning), then you might consider taking up smoking as well or adding a sprinkling of asbestos to your cereal in the morning–what the heck!  The bottom line here is:  There is no bright side of tanning beds.

Love it/Hate it: receptions

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

Since I was on the topic of love & hate yesterday I thought I’d keep it up!  There are so many ways to make your reception special and really do it right.  Here are a few ideas…

Love List

  • Wine, champagne or signature cocktails served on passed trays immediately following the ceremony to help avoid a long line at the bar.
  • Appetizer stations in addition to passed hors d’oeuvres.
  • Seated dinners for parties with more than 100 guests instead of a buffet.
  • Dessert buffets or personalized trays at each table in addition to (or instead of) cake.
  • Skipping the garter and bouquet-tosses.  At least skipping the garter toss, please!

Hate it

  • Bridesmaids and groomsmen seated at a head table without their dates.
  • Not enough cocktail tables to put your drink or your purse down for a minute!
  • Tables that seat more than 10 guests–you can’t even talk to the people across from you.
  • Cash bars.  To maximize your budget stick with beer & wine only or invite fewer guests.
  • Super late cake cuttings (like after 9:00 when you invited guests for a 4:00 ceremony)!

Love it/Hate it: favors

Wednesday, January 13th, 2010

I know some people really object to the word hate and I suppose I could call this a “do” and “don’t” list, but sometimes there is no in-between and you have to just love or hate something.  We’ve seen a lot of favors in our wedding travels…from the mundane to the most heartfelt and I think it probably goes without saying that I prefer the latter.  Here are some of my faves and a few of my pet peeves!

Love List 

  • Seating cards that double as favors.
  • Personalized tags to match your invitations, menu or monogram–a must-have detail!
  • Altruistic or family-made favors like homemade cookies, family recipes & charitable donations.
  • Edible favors of locally made goodies you just know your guests will love (think maple syrup, honey, spicy mustard, apple butter or chocolates!).
  • Welcome baskets for out-of-town guests in addition to (or instead of) favors at the reception.    

Hate it (Sorry, No Love) 

  • Large-sized favors that take over the look of the centerpieces/tablescape and clutter it up.
  • Items that are childish or garbagey (like beer coozies, bubbles and tiny bells)!
  • Mints or chocolate-coated almonds in little tulle bags!
  • Using the term “in lieu of favors” on donation cards.  The donation IS the favor, it’s not in lieu of one.