Archive for the ‘Love it/Hate it’ Category

Candy Bar At Your Wedding…And Why You Should Skip It

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

The candy bar buffet has been a trend in weddings for years now and I personally think it’s time for retirement.  As a lifelong sugar addict I don’t usually talk people out of candy, but as a wedding professional who often sees couples working to stay on budget I find that this element of the reception turns out to be more waste than it’s worth.

Most adults who’ve spent the last several hours eating delicious food and imbibing in beer, wine and the like, and who’ve likely had a piece of cake!, are not looking to get their sweet tooth on with some Mike and Ikes or Sour Gummies.  Presenting a candy bar as a “favor” to take home is lost on most people because the day after your wedding they are not looking to bombard their bodies with corn syrup, but rather looking to hydrate and reflect on the beautiful party you hosted.

If you really want a candy bar here are some things to consider:

1. You’ll need to buy apothecary jars to display the goods.  You can assume that these will cost you anywhere from $20 to perhaps as little as $10 each.  You’ll probably get at least 10 jars if you want to make a display.  Oh, and don’t forget you’ll need to wash the jars before bringing them to your venue or planner.

2.  You’ll want to have signage made for your candy bar.  Depending on your DIY abilities or your stationer this will either cost time or money or both.

3.  Unless your venue has an abundance of buffet tables you will likely need to rent a table and a linen for your candy bar display.

4.  Scoops.  You’ll need some scoops and/or tongs to serve the candy.

5.  Bags.  Guests need something to shovel that sugar in to so you’ll want to provide bags and twist ties.

6.  Last, but not least you need candy!  Soooo….let’s say you select 10 types of candies for your display…you’ll either shop in bulk at a local candy shop or buy online (in which case don’t forget to add on the shipping for the 30-50 pounds of candy you’re buying!).  I did a little online shopping this morning and for an assortment of 10 different types of candies (good ones that I’d have bought when I was a kid and used to make weekly trips to the candy shop in the mall) my total came to $350.  For candy.

Now, when I do some quick math I would conservatively estimate a $600 price tag on your candy bar experience.  For about that price I could design an amazing floral arbor for your ceremony; or you could get an incredibly special wedding cake design; or you can add a nice little chunk onto your open bar tab; or make a donation to charity as your wedding favor.

If you are already sold on the candy bar idea I’d suggest you consider a dessert display instead with a jar or two of candy (if you must!) and an assortment of pastries, cakes, donuts and truffles.  It’s a little more grown-up and likely much more delicious!

Here’s a cotton candy pink bouquet to add a little sweetness to my sour candy bar post!  This bouquet includes garden roses, ranunculus, godetia and French tulips.

 

Tall Centerpieces…And Why I Hate Them

Wednesday, February 1st, 2012

It’s been a while since I’ve written a Love it/Hate it post, but a recent consultation with a bride who expressed her horrible experience with tall centerpieces at a friend’s wedding has ignited my flame.

People often choose tall centerpieces to make a large ballroom feel more “full” or to give a feeling of opulence, but there are drawbacks.  I think they are impractical and obstruct the guests’ view across the table.  If a guest has to move a centerpiece off the table to feel more comfortable that’s a bit of a floral faux pas.  If my centerpiece hindered conversation and socialization at your wedding I’d be pretty bummed.

Taller pieces are also more top-heavy which means when your Uncle George leans on the table after a few glasses of vino something may get tipsy…and I’m not talking about your uncle!  I’m a firm believer in not booby-trapping your wedding.  Even the amazing Preston Bailey, Oprah’s go-to floral designer, has shared horror stories of his impressive pieces causing chaos at a reception.  You simply cannot predict how guests are going to interact with your table decor.

I simply dislike tall centerpieces.  They may seem impressive when you first enter the reception, but once seated your guests are staring at the base of the vase and the real action (aka the flowers!) are above their heads.  Short and sweet, I think your centerpieces should be short and sweet.  If your guests can easily see across the table, then the centerpiece is the right size.

 Here are a few centerpieces that are full, colorful and will not hinder conversation.

Love it/Hate it: Your Wedding Website

Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

One trend that has developed over the past several years is the customized wedding website.  It seems that just about every couple has a wedding website of some sort.  From free website templates to upgraded personalized sites there is no detail left untold (for better or for worse!) on some wedding websites.  

First, the love.  I love that couples can express their excitement, recount their personal love story and tell you where they are registered, but on my hate it list I have to put that wedding countdown ticker (and repeating that countdown on your facebook status gets a double “hated it” with two snaps up…or would that be two snaps down?).  

Hey, it’s not your fault that the countdown is prominently displayed at the top of your website, but keeping track of the hundreds of days until your wedding can bring with it the impression of an unhealthy obsession that takes some of the joy out of the whole planning experience.  

Do you really think your partner wants to hear, “235 days until our wedding!”, before you go to bed and then wake in the morning to read your 7 am tweet, “234 days until we’re married!” ?

Do yourself and your partner (and your family and friends!) a favor and start your countdown around 30 days–OK, 60 days if you must–but when there are 3 digits in the number of days in your countdown you might be wearing out your wedding welcome.

Focus on the planning, the fun stuff, the details, the budget, the menu, but don’t drive yourself mad with a daily countdown. 

What’s the best part about your wedding website?

Love it/Hate it: Winter in Vermont

Tuesday, March 8th, 2011

We had a rainy weekend.  It was the kind of rain that melts the snow, allows you to put on a slightly lighter coat and might just trick you into thinking that winter is on its way out and spring is walking in through the out door.  But then, just like always, along comes a huge snow storm that brings about 2 feet of fluffy white stuff from the sky and deposits it outside your front door, all over your car (with twice as much at the end of the driveway where the snowplow came by!), and you officially cannot believe it!

This is about the time when many Vermonters start cursing winter’s name and day-dreaming of mud season.  I caught myself nearly falling into this trap on Saturday when I was on my way to the Vermont Flower Show.  I noticed a large patch of grass outside my window–sign of spring, right?–so before I got ahead of myself I quickly thought of some of the things I love about winter.

Here are 10 things that came to mind:

♥ Hot chocolate with fresh whipped cream

Homemade soups

♥ My CSA share from Pete’s Greens (which I’ve missed dearly)

♥ Skiing with my husband

♥ A white blanket of snow that hides my unfinished yard work from the fall

♥ Fires in the woodstove

♥ The way my cat practically melts into the rocking chair in front of the woodstove

♥ That morning wake-up call via a burst of cold air that hits your face when you first walk out of the house

♥ Watching lots of movies—guilt free ‘cause it’s cold outside and we ain’t goin’ nowhere!

♥ Shoveling OK, not shoveling exactly, but the paths we clear through the yard can make a kinda cool maze

Not everything about winter is great, but much like hope, spring springs eternal!  Vermonters just need to be a little more patient than most.  What are some of your favorite things about winter?

We have 3 feet of snow out there today according to the snow gauge!

This is our cat, Lily, doing her Lily Tomlin impersonation.  {little Lily, large rocking chair}

Tanning for your wedding day–Hate it!

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

Many people feel they look their best with a little sun kissed color, but when I hear someone say that they are going tanning I must admit I cringe.  Maybe it’s easy for me to say because I’ve never gone to a tanning booth (yes, I am from NJ and have never been to a tanning salon!) and I worked on a farm the summer that I got married so I had a bit of natural color on my wedding day, but seriously?…tanning for your wedding?  Tanning beds have been bumped up to Group 1, the highest cancer-risk category, and are considered “possibly carcinogenic to humans”.  A World Health Organization report finds that those who started using tanning beds before age 30 increase their risk of developing melanoma by 75%…hear it again, 75%!  Melanoma is the most dangerous form of skin cancer and causes a large majority of skin cancer deaths.  According to the report it may also increases the risk of melanoma of the eye. 

Brides Magazine and Glamour both devoted pages in recent issues declaring that the fake bake is out!  It’s clear that it’s a matter of when the damage will be visible as opposed to if there will be harm to your skin.  So consider the fact that you are beautiful just as pale and pasty as you are!  It is recommended that you apply sunscreen daily (at minimum SPF 15 to 30 is recommended in all seasons), even if you are trying to get a natural sun tan and keep in mind that there are lots of artificial tanners and bronzer options out there!

Don’t be fooled!  Tanning beds are not “safer than the sun” and they won’t prevent you from getting a sunburn.  The reason you only go in for a few minutes is because it IS so intense.  If you do tan and you have no plans to stop (I know some people say they like how they feel after tanning), then you might consider taking up smoking as well or adding a sprinkling of asbestos to your cereal in the morning–what the heck!  The bottom line here is:  There is no bright side of tanning beds.

Love it/Hate it: receptions

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

Since I was on the topic of love & hate yesterday I thought I’d keep it up!  There are so many ways to make your reception special and really do it right.  Here are a few ideas…

Love List

  • Wine, champagne or signature cocktails served on passed trays immediately following the ceremony to help avoid a long line at the bar.
  • Appetizer stations in addition to passed hors d’oeuvres.
  • Seated dinners for parties with more than 100 guests instead of a buffet.
  • Dessert buffets or personalized trays at each table in addition to (or instead of) cake.
  • Skipping the garter and bouquet-tosses.  At least skipping the garter toss, please!

Hate it

  • Bridesmaids and groomsmen seated at a head table without their dates.
  • Not enough cocktail tables to put your drink or your purse down for a minute!
  • Tables that seat more than 10 guests–you can’t even talk to the people across from you.
  • Cash bars.  To maximize your budget stick with beer & wine only or invite fewer guests.
  • Super late cake cuttings (like after 9:00 when you invited guests for a 4:00 ceremony)!

Love it/Hate it: favors

Wednesday, January 13th, 2010

I know some people really object to the word hate and I suppose I could call this a “do” and “don’t” list, but sometimes there is no in-between and you have to just love or hate something.  We’ve seen a lot of favors in our wedding travels…from the mundane to the most heartfelt and I think it probably goes without saying that I prefer the latter.  Here are some of my faves and a few of my pet peeves!

Love List 

  • Seating cards that double as favors.
  • Personalized tags to match your invitations, menu or monogram–a must-have detail!
  • Altruistic or family-made favors like homemade cookies, family recipes & charitable donations.
  • Edible favors of locally made goodies you just know your guests will love (think maple syrup, honey, spicy mustard, apple butter or chocolates!).
  • Welcome baskets for out-of-town guests in addition to (or instead of) favors at the reception.    

Hate it (Sorry, No Love) 

  • Large-sized favors that take over the look of the centerpieces/tablescape and clutter it up.
  • Items that are childish or garbagey (like beer coozies, bubbles and tiny bells)!
  • Mints or chocolate-coated almonds in little tulle bags!
  • Using the term “in lieu of favors” on donation cards.  The donation IS the favor, it’s not in lieu of one.