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Boutonnieres and Corsages–Who get’s them?

Friday, July 16th, 2010

Most wedding flower decisions are pretty straight forward–a bouquet for the bride and her attendants, flowers for the ceremony, centerpieces on the tables, but personal flowers such as boutonnieres and corsages tend to be more of a personal choice.

Every now and again I’ll come across a couple who opts to skip boutonnieres for the groom and groomsmen (usually due to somewhat casual attire) and I’ve even had moms decide to go without flowers on occasion, but here are a few guidelines to help you decide who’s in on the personal flower list.

Boutonnieres should be considered for the groom, groomsmen, fathers, grandfathers, ushers and ring bearers as well as your officiant if you are not having a religious ceremony. 

Likewise, corsages are traditionally given to mothers & grandmothers, although I often suggest small clutch bouquets for moms–I think they are particularly nice for pictures!  

I would add to the lists above that you should include any siblings that aren’t in the wedding party and their spouses, readers, singers and other important family members including step-parents.

Think of it as a way of acknowledging people close to you on a very special day.  Include as many people as possible and decide for yourself who’s on your list.  Every family is different so ultimately you need to choose what makes the most sense for your families.

Above:  Thistle & lavender boutonniere (left) and corsage with lisianthus buds tied with raffia from Kate & Alex’s wedding.

Above:  White dendrobium orchids, spray roses, seeded eucalyptus & cedar make up these vintage-inspired winter wedding corsage & boutonniere.

Above:  An array of calla and spray rose boutonnieres with hypericum berries and myrtle.

Essential Wedding Planning Tip–Brides Rule!

Monday, July 12th, 2010

When I was planning our wedding 7 years ago my dressmaker introduced me to Brides Rule!, which I consider an essential wedding planning tool.  Brides Rule! is a simple, yet effective phrase that can be used to end quarrels, discussions, tiffs or nagging that may occur when planning your big day.  In other words, it’s a tactful way to say back off

Here’s how it works:  If family or friends become too involved in your plans it may be time to exercise Brides Rule! (a “talk to the hand” gesture may accompany it).  Once it has been invoked there are to be no further discussions about the issue at hand and all involved must respect the bride’s decision.  Please use it responsibly, but do use it because it works!

Note:  Brides Rule! is not intended to be used to overrule all of your partner’s ideas or to increase the overall wedding budget!!

Below:  I had these fans made up for a bridal show several years ago.  They were a huge hit!

Wedding Consultation Tips

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

There is a lot of stuff to figure out when planning a wedding–the location, the guest list, the officiant, the wardrobe, the invitations, the food, the flowers, the entertainment, the budget…and it all takes some work.  The most difficult part of the planning process can sometimes be the vendor consultations.  Some brides view it as a chance to interview their potential vendor and others may feel like they are auditioning for the vendor!  I like to think of it as a mutual interview to see if styles and personalities match.

Here are 7 tips for your consultation with a wedding florist:

~If you have ideas, a color palette, fabric swatches or pictures you’ve found in magazines or online you should bring them along.  These may give the best impression of your overall wedding style.

~Try to communicate your likes as well as your dislikes whenever possible.  As a florist it is helpful when a bride tells me that she loves ranunculus, but isn’t crazy for callas in her bouquet. 

~If you don’t have “a grand plan” figured out (which is completely fine, of course!), come prepared with whatever you do know and be open to ideas.  If you hear good ideas or see pictures in the consultation that appeal to your sense of style then you may be headed in the right direction!  If not, perhaps you should consider whether this vendor has an overall style that suits you. 

~You should feel free to ask questions during the consultation, however you probably don’t want to ask questions just because you found a list on a page in a magazine that tells you to.  If you have a legitimate question or concern about how something works or how to book your date, you should inquire about the who, what, why and how, but if you are sitting face to face with a vendor you don’t want to ask questions that you truly aren’t concerned about just because you are reading them off of a wedding checklist or your best friend told you to. 

~Try to avoid squeezing in a million and one appointments in one day or weekend.  Pick no more than 3 vendors to meet with in any category if there isn’t one stand-out after viewing websites or getting referrals from vendors you are already working with.  If scheduling multiple consultations in a day allow at least 60-90 minutes per consultation plus travel time between appointments so you won’t be rushed.

~Aim to arrive on time.  Most wedding vendors are happy to meet with you to talk about your wedding and will give you ample time to discuss the details, but consider the professional’s time as valuable as your own.

~If you are planning from afar or cannot arrange an in-person meeting you can schedule an initial phone consultation as well as exchange images and wedding details via e-mail to relay a sense of the scope of your wedding and determine whether your styles will be a good match.

After the consultation–In most cases a signed contract and deposit will secure your wedding date with a floral designer.  Many florists will create a customized proposal with varying degrees of detail and pricing information for your consideration.  Style, personality and budget will drive most of your vendor selections (which I talked a bit about 2 weeks ago).  When you find a qualified vendor you like & trust, book ‘em!

Selecting Your Wedding Vendors

Wednesday, April 14th, 2010

I‘ve heard the term “faking it” used a lot recently and it got me thinking that when it comes to wedding planning there are times when vendors decide to fake it–especially when a business is still finding an authentic identity (ie. what they really do well).  My first few seasons were speckled with their fair share of faking it moments in an effort to never say “no” to anyone. 

Can you decorate my tent poles?  Absolutely!  Have you ever done x, y, z before?  No problemo.  Is it possible for you to rent/build/invent something?  You got it!  I can learn how to solder by next June, can’t I? 

While I can happily say that I have never promised something I couldn’t actually deliver (it’s not like I was just making things up as I went along after all!), I did fake it on occasion with the confidence that I could accomplish what was requested of me.

As my business has grown over the last 8 wedding seasons I have learned how not to fake it and experience has shown me the importance of being able to guide a bride in the right direction when design details become overwhelming, cost prohibitive, or out-of-line with the overall scope of the day.  Don’t get me wrong, I will still take on design elements that I haven’t done before–that’s half the fun of my job and part of what it means to create custom designs!–but I can approach them with an accurate understanding of the time considerations and costs required to complete them.  

Moral of the story?…An experienced wedding vendor won’t need to fake it and can help guide you in your planning process to create a day that reflects your wedding style.  Personal style (of both the vendor and you, the couple!), pricing variables and gut instincts will be your guides when selecting wedding vendors.  You should be comfortable and confident with your choices so you won’t feel compelled to micromanage the professionals you’ve hired.  You have to trust your vendors, otherwise you should question why you hired them in the first place!

Smelling the roses

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2010

Fragrance is a pretty personal thing.  Your wedding should be an affair to remember with floral decor that is a feast for the eyes, but you want to be wary of coming on too strong with scents.  Especially when it comes to centerpieces.  It may be tempting to fill the room with classic blooms of gardenias or lily of the valley, but strong smells at the table can irritate your guests’ allergies and even cause foods to taste differently so in my book they should be avoided or their use should be limited.  This goes for scented candles as well.  Pumpkin spice may seem like a nice idea when you are planning your fall wedding in Vermont, but your guests may not agree.

What smells sweet to some can seem absolutely putrid to others.  Stargazer lilies are a great example (sorry to pick on ya’ girls) because their fragrance can either fill a room with a natural perfume or give you an instant odor headache.  A few other fragrant flowers that tend to have strong scents are gardenia, lily of the valley, hyacinth, freesia, peonies, allium and tuberose. I know someone who is even allergic to lilacs and cannot be within feet of them–you never know!  So give your guests a break and reserve the fragrant flowers for your bouquet!

Below left:  This white freesia was one of the nicest stems of the summer!  There are 5 or 6 flowers blooming all at once which is basically ideal for me when I am arranging a bridal bouquet.  I like this shot because it includes my favorite vase from Frog Hollow.  It was given to me after I successfully executed the set-up of the owner’s daughter’s wedding at a flower shop I was working at almost 9 years ago!  It almost felt like an award!  Below right:  Lily of the valley with hosta leaves and fresh mint in a mason jar just screams Vermont Spring!

Gild the Lily

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

When it comes to hosting your wedding guests it feels great to gild the lily whenever possible.  Of course it’s easier to gild if you’ve got a gold leaf budget, but here are seven simple ways:

Greet your guests with cocktails upon arrival at the ceremony site (if it’s not religious, or at 10am that is!).  If it’s a mid-afternoon ceremony in the summer or you’d prefer not to serve alcohol you may want to serve lemonade and iced tea before the ceremony. 

Have a slightly longer cocktail hour (an hour and a half will do) with ample food offerings.  Serve a signature cocktail or two and allow folks to mingle and enjoy being your guest.  Don’t forget to include some non-alcoholic beverages, too.

Place a flower or fresh herb at each table setting either in the napkin fold or on the edge of the plate. 

Go for a live band.  If dancing is something you love to do there is nothing like live music!

Serve a small slice of cake to each guest with a chocolate truffle and/or cream puff on one small plate with a piece of fruit as a ‘dessert course’.

Offer coffee and hot cider to guests as they leave your reception along with chocolate-chip cookies or cider donuts for a final treat as they walk out the door!

Arrange for transportation back to the hotel/inn from the wedding for your guests.  You can skip the limo for your wedding party and arrange for everyone to get a lift that may want one.

Orange mokara orchid with lavender.

Photo:  Daria Bishop Photographers.

Wait! I’m in the middle of nowhere!

Thursday, January 21st, 2010

For some of your guests travelling to Vermont may seem like a far away place.  Introduce your guests to the state you love so much by telling them why you chose Vermont for your wedding weekend (if it is not already obvious!) and give them a list of fun things to do.  Aside from a local map it’s a great idea to give some insider tips about breakfast, lunch and dinner spots (including whether or not they should expect a long wait for a particular location or can make a reservation) and suggest activities for different ages & physical abilities considering your friends with children as well as avid bikers, hikers and hard core shoppers.  Try to steer people in the right direction so they see the best of what your chosen location has to offer.  For example if you are having a wedding in Burlington during Jazz Fest it would be great to give your guests a heads up or if there is a farmer’s market nearby you could direct them to it.  Free concerts, museums, parks, wineries, pick-your-own blueberries/raspberries/apples, orchard-made cider donuts and much more are ripe for the picking.  Find travel tips on vermontvacation.com.

Out-of-town Guests

Monday, January 18th, 2010

Whether you are a destination couple or a hometown crew it is likely that you will have a portion of your guest list travelling to your Vermont wedding.  Planning from your guests’ perspective is the key to planning a great wedding weekend.  Consider these tips to be the ultimate host-and-hostess with the mostess:

  1. Host a welcome reception the day or two before your wedding.  This can be as informal as a BBQ or cocktail hour at a local pub or something a step away from a rehearsal dinner depending on your budget and style of the wedding.
  2. Create a printed itinerary or newsletter that your guests will receive upon check-in at their hotel.  Include a local map, a list of your favorite dinner and breakfast spots, shopping or hiking areas (depending on your sport!) and information about the weekend (like directions and timing for the wedding day so people don’t arrive late).
  3. Invite as many out-of-town guests to the rehearsal dinner as you possibly can.  
  4. Put welcome baskets in the hotel rooms of your guests with a note welcoming them to VT!  It can be as simple as a couple of water bottles, some local baked goods and chocolates or as elaborate as a bottle of wine, local bread or crackers, chocolate truffles or toffee, fresh fruit and granola bars.  If you can’t do the basket at least do the note or the newsletter!
  5. Budget Tip:  Consider taking your “favor funds” and putting them towards welcome baskets or a welcome reception.
  6. Try to provide 2 options for your guests’ lodging so they can select a room with a rate that suits their budget.  Some guests may stay an extra night to enjoy a long weekend! 

Planning Do’s

Tuesday, January 5th, 2010

You can find a lot of do’s and don’ts when it comes to wedding planning.  Naturally, you want to avoid the don’ts as much as possible (for example don’t include registry info with your invitations, don’t invite friends to your bridal shower who aren’t invited to the wedding, and don’t invite guests for a 5 o’clock ceremony and plan only a cocktail reception.)  I am sure that at my own wedding I did a few don’ts and for some couples breaking the rules is what will make your day memorable, but here are a few DO’s for 2010!

Please Do:

  • Make sure your Plan B (aka your rain plan) is as good as Plan A.  If you are having an outdoor ceremony you cannot be disappointed if it rains.  It might rain.  It probably won’t, but it might!  You are not allowed to worry about the weather.  I repeat, you are not allowed to worry about the weather!
  • Create a signature cocktail and a non-alcoholic “mocktail,” too.  Tie your color palette or a seasonal fruit into the drink to make it even more special!
  • Get creative with the guest book.  Give people a topic to write about or ask for words of wisdom, get a photo booth or provide a digital camera for people to take photos before signing the book, compile a list of good wishes from your friends & family or design a photo album of the two of you for guests to look through and write in (like a yearbook!).
  • Select a colored linen or napkin to emphasize the palette you’ve selected.
  • Give a donation as your wedding favor.
  • Prioritize wedding day decor in your budget.  It creates the atmosphere!
  • Save some money for your honeymoon!  You will have a life after the wedding, too.

Destination Brides

Monday, January 4th, 2010

Destination Brides who are planning their Vermont wedding from afar need not worry.  There are a lot of couples in the same shoes and as a wedding professional it is my goal to work to understand your vision and allow you to trust that the look and feeling you imagine can be accomplished.  Whether you are as close as Boston or New York or as far away as California it is possible to plan the wedding of your dreams and rest easy knowing that everything will come together. 

Here are 10 tips for destination couples:

  1. Make a list of the best and worst aspects of each location as you pick your ideal venue taking into consideration how the flow will work for your guests.  Note:  If you find a venue you like, but it won’t work for your wedding day it may be a good choice for your rehearsal dinner. 
  2. What is your rain plan?  You must have a Plan B that is just as good as Plan A (or at least close to it!) if you are planning an outdoor ceremony.  
  3. Scope out hotel accommodations in the vicinity of the sites you are looking at just in case you won’t be in the area again until closer to the wedding date.
  4. Collect photos from magazines, blogs or websites of styles you’d like to share with your florist or wedding planner.
  5. Ask for referrals for photographers, caterers, florists & entertainment from other vendors you’ve hired.
  6. Select only vendors you have confidence in!  Trust your instincts.  You will probably feel more comfortable with vendors who are easy to contact by e-mail, too. 
  7. Plan to visit Vermont about 1 year before your wedding to see how the area will be likely to look at the time of your wedding next year or visit at least 2 months prior to your date to handle any in-person planning that may need to be done.
  8. Consider a slightly smaller guest list so you can treat them to more special details like welcome baskets in their rooms, a welcome reception or an upgrade at the bar.
  9. Arrange to have a nice space for you and your attendants to get ready the day of the wedding.
  10. Plan to relax upon your arrival in Vermont and trust that your day will come together flawlessly!